Tuesday, October 8, 2013

Worky Musings

     There's been a fair amount going on behind the scenes lately. A good bit of fortunate timing in August had me perusing the company website, where I came across an open position back at the home office with a woman that I knew and liked. A couple of weeks went by after the resume was sent in. Assuming this was yet another strikeout, I continued my more or less casual job hunt with local employers. Then, surprise! She contacted me for a phone interview, which led to a second phone interview, then finally a face-to-face with her and a couple of managers. Less than three hours after that, I got the formal offer, which came with (surprise again!) a raise. The raise was most certainly welcome, but the biggest "perk" for me is a daily commute that takes six minutes each way instead of the 45 I've been enduring since 2009. It's also nice not to have to pay income tax to a state where I am not a resident.
     I started yesterday and so far it's been amazing. Even though the office is in a part of the building that's in the process of being renovated, it's still much cleaner and much (much) quieter than my last location. My boss previously worked in information technology, so her communication and organization skills are superlative, making it that much easier to figure things out and get work done. And there's a lot on our plate. We play an important role in the company, but because it's not a profit center, we have to expend a lot of effort to maintain visibility. 
     Perhaps needless to say, this is the happiest turn of events since The Scorpion Queen got fired about a year and a half ago. In just two days, I've run into people I knew back then, who welcomed me back and expressed satisfaction that the arc of events finally bent toward justice.

New Marriages For Old


Seems strange to me to be fussing about gay marriages when hetero marriages are in so much trouble.  It’s not like hetero married couples were so great at marriages in the first place. Maybe the anti-gay folks should forget about protesting gay marriage and instead spend their time and energy work on fixing hetero marriages.  Gay marriage will probably be small percentage of all marriages in the US if not the world.  Fixing hetero marriages would help more people than anything else the anti-gay marriage folks could do. 

Two well known hetero marriage problems are the fifty-percent divorce rate and that large numbers of young folks are starting families without bothering to get married. 

Gay marriages will not be immune from these two major hetero marriage problems.  Personally, I am waiting for the first really big celebrity gay marriage divorce that gets nasty and gossipy all over the front pages of the newspapers and will be the talk of late night comedy shows for months.  Imagine a custody battle that gets nasty and gossipy.
I am sure that raising children in a gay household is going to be as problematic for them as it is for hetero marriages.   

Hetero marriages also teach children about hetero relationships. The kids get relationship lessons from watching their parents. They see how their parents love each other and work out any relationship differences.  Specifically, hetero marriages teach kids how to relate to the opposite sex by watching how their parents do the same.  Given the fifty-percent divorce rate, I can only wonder how many hetero marriages do a good job of this. 

So what do you suppose kids will learn about relationships from gay parents?  How do you teach kids to relate to the opposite sex when both parents are the same sex?   We don’t know but we are going to find out over the next few generations.